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Do you have children in your life? Did you even stay longer in a marriage you would have otherwise ended for the sake of the kids thinking that two parents are better than one? If you did this, did you think that if you broke up the family unit with a divorce, that the kids would turn out to be a complete mess?

I am going to twist and turn this idea around a little bit today. If you are divorced, have you ever considered that you got divorced because of your kids?

It’s funny. I have so many married people who come to me for advice, telling me that they want to stay together for the kids. Meanwhile these two people cannot stand each other anymore and can barely tolerate being in the same room with each other — but think it’s a good idea to stay together because of the kids.

Kids are pretty smart. They are very perceptive, and they read people’s energy. They know it when their parents can’t stand each other, so why would you stay together ‘for the kids?’ You aren’t fooling anyone by doing that . . . especially the kids.

via David Wygant: Which Came First – The Children Or The Divorce?.