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Not everything fits in a magazine article, even in 8,000 words, and one path of reporting that didn’t make it into this week’s story was how examples of sharing can be found in a most unexpected place — among divorced couples.

“It’s not every divorce, but it is more divorces than before,” David Sutton told me. He’s a lawyer and therapist in San Francisco, and he specializes in mediating custody agreements in which former partners share parenting completely.

I spoke to about a dozen couples who are making this work. Louise Rush and Alan Bamberger, for instance, have taken the idea of equality to the extreme. They divorced six years ago, when their sons were 10 and 12, but neither has left the house. They share the 2,700-square-foot Victorian in San Francisco where they lived while they were married. She uses the bedroom on the first floor and he has a bedroom upstairs, near those of the boys.

via Equally Shared Divorce – NYTimes.com.