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With the advantage of hindsight, I can see that the breakup of my marriage was a transformative experience for me. The upheaval, coming like a bolt from the blue and feeling like hell, jolted me back to life and forced me to begin afresh. It shook me out of the fog I had been living in for years and liberated me in the process.

I was in my mid-forties, married for twenty years with three children, when I learned my wife was having an affair. I was knocked sideways, torn open like a tin can. Divorce was not in my script at all, so when I saw my marriage crumbling beyond repair I was totally disoriented.

via Leo Averbach: Divorce Can Be Transformative.