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The often brutal process of a divorce brings a family stress and pain equal to a death of a close family member, affecting everyone, but nobody more deeply, traumatically and irreversibly than the children. Divorce, while sometimes necessary, is rarely the hoped for panacea it’s often built up to be, especially when children are involved. Divorce does not mean divesting ourselves of contacts with each other, but rather, modifying the relationship so that our children can still feel supported and loved by parents who can no longer support and love each other.

The most important part is never to put nurturing feelings of anger or hatred before nurturing the kids. Sadly, this is often not the case.

Many divorces are maelstroms of explosive rage, mutual recrimination, and even emotional or physical abuse. A couple that at once saw themselves growing old together can barely stand the thought of one more night in the same house. Love and devotion have fermented irreversibly into loathing and resentment, a terrifying transformation for a child to witness.

via Dr. Ronald Ricker and Dr. Venus Nicolino: “We Really Must Talk”.