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How does your ex make you angry? “How much time do I have?” you ask. The list is probably detailed, extensive and, quite frankly, repetitive. In fact, the dozen or more daily offenses perpetrated by your ex are most likely duplicated ad nauseam until you feel like screaming, “We’ve done this! We’ve been through this! Are you stupid?”

Breaking out of a cycle with an uncooperative ex feels absolutely impossible. Time and again, co-parents complain that their ex talks about them behind their back to the kids, sabotages school meetings, buys tremendous amounts of unnecessary stuff in an attempt to win the children’s favor, lets the kids stay up too late, etc.

“He won’t ever get it.” “She’s always been like this.” “My ex is stuck and just won’t change,” you may say. But does this mean that you have to resign yourself to this frustrating and unproductive cycle? The answer is “no” and here’s why:

All behavior is a form of communication.

via Julie A. Ross, M.A: The High Road Of Divorce.