Mediate Michigan

Most people do not want their divorce to be nasty. Why would they? No one aspires to spend money on lawyers or put themselves through the legendary rigmarole of the court system.

The best way to prevent the divorce legal system from adding another layer of complexity to your divorce experience is to keep your case out of court. This means resolving your differences with your soon-to-be ex before litigation becomes necessary.

While this is easier said than done, it is not always as difficult as we, as a society, are prone to make it. All we have to do is persuade our spouse to agree to our settlement terms.

Is this a tall order? You bet it is, especially if we continue to behave as we have in the past. Our traditional, confrontational approach to one-on-one spousal settlement negotiations does not work, and we have a century of divorce wars to prove that it doesn’t.

via J. Richard Kulerski: Sane Divorce is about Salesmanship, not War.