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You have waited to have ‘the conversation’ with your spouse and you have gone over it in your mind endlessly. You can no longer pretend that the marriage is working. It is show time! You have watched other divorcing people go through a house of horrors but you want to be the exception. Therefore you should know this; after being a judge in divorce court for 15 years I can tell you how you begin your case may define how your case unfolds and what the emotional and financial costs are to you and your family.

You don’t know how your spouse will act, or who will they become. One friend of mine said, “You can’t really know who you are married to until you divorce them.” You want to think that you are not capable of the emotional brutality you have seen in others. After all you may have children to protect not to mention the wear and tear on your own heart.

You may think you are embarking on a logical legal process, but most cases result in tremendous emotional consequences. I have rarely seen a court battle over different interpretation of the law. It is most often about some emotional need, or the need for vindication.

via Judge Michele F. Lowrance: How To Tell Your Spouse You Want A Divorce.