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January 18, 2011
Adult children often don’t see eye-to-eye when tending to their older parent’s needs
It’s not until one is in the position of caring for an aging parent that he or she fully can comprehend just how complicated it can be.
From the emotional hurdles of dealing with a parent’s ailing health to practical decisions about Mom or Dad’s care, the caregiver’s job is an incredibly stressful one.
For many adult children, dealing with a sibling who has a different opinion on the best way to care for their aging parent is one of the thornier issues they’ll have to contend with.
Claudia Duff, director of Integrity Senior Services based in Mariners Harbor, which provides in-home counseling services to seniors and caregivers, said one obstacle that frequently crops up among adult siblings is when one wants to keep Dad or Mom at home, while another believes it’s necessary to put him/her in an assisted living facility.
“Both parties want what’s best,” Ms. Duff said, “but they have different ideas of how to get there.”
These kinds of disagreements often arise between children who live near the parent and are taking on most of the caregiving duties and those who live out of state.